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Help kids keep stress low as they come to terms with divorce

Were you a bit worried about how your kids would take the news that you're planning to divorce before you sat them down to explain the situation? You're not alone in your struggle, for sure, as many Massachusetts parents have been through similar experiences. Most kids are highly adaptable and with the right amount of love and support can cope with various kinds of disappointment in life. A key to your kids' success may lie in keeping your bond strong and letting them know they can talk about their feelings.   

While you're thinking of ways to help your kids adjust to their new lifestyle, don't forget to tend your own needs as well. In fact, if your children witness you reaching out for support, they are more likely to do so when they feel down or have questions about the changes in their lives. Hopefully, you'll all be able to move on without serious obstacles arising; however, if a troubling situation does occur, it's good to know there are resources available to help you rectify divorce-related problems. 

Keep these things in mind when helping kids cope with divorce              

The way your children come to terms with divorce may be different from your friend or co-worker's children. It's good to glean what you can from the sage advice of other parents who have trod similar paths before you. The following list includes useful tips for helping kids keep stress levels low in divorce: 

  • Verbally tell them you love them and are there to support them.
  • Acknowledge their feelings as well as your own. Let them know it's okay to feel sad, worried, angry or confused. 
  • Also, let your children know it's okay to be glad about life and to enjoy their times with both parents without worrying that one or the other will get upset. 
  • Keep lines of communication open and make sure your children have quick access to their other parent at all times. 
  • Don't say negative things about your ex in the presence of your children. 
  • Avoid using your kids to deliver messages to your co-parent. 

Most Massachusetts judges agree that children of divorce fare best when they have ample time with both parents. If your ex is making that impossible, you needn't sit back and do nothing about it. There are support teams who can help you rectify such situations by bringing divorce-related issues to the immediate attention of the court.             

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